If you've ever pondered this question you are NOT alone. It's a common thought as we progress through life...but the real question is why not you?
One thing I found out in my journey is that somebody ALWAYS has it worse than me... and you may be thinking..."HOW? No one has it worse than I do... I lost my (insert your most significant person(s)/thing/job here)"...and or I'm at my "LOWEST" or "WORST"..."I've never felt so or been so deflated"...
All moments in life present temporary emotions that come and go...those emotions can linger or go away as slowly or as quickly as a person will allow and it will always be a matter of personal choosing of when that transition from down to on the way up happens...
How can you use what you are going through to either better yourself or help someone else? What lessons can be learned in the experience? What can be shared? Many people that I talk to have found therapy in opening up and sharing with others...many have found ways to strengthen/fortify relationships that were once lost with friends and or family... many have helped a tremendous amount of people they know personally or just met to heal from tragedies or misfortunes they have been through...
So the question truly is "Why not you"? How can you move past the hurt, pain, disappointment or general disgust? NO....It's not easy, won't ever be easy, wasn't designed to feel great, but you CAN bounce back and it can be done with purposeful and intentional steps towards healing. Here are some tips...
Be intentional in your quest to heal
Find a reason to get out of the house or confined space (room)
Identify solo and group pass time activities that are good distractions
TALK TO YOUR (P-BODS) PERSONAL BOARD OF DIRECTORS about how you are truly feeling...(this is a group of people you identify as your genuine support that can give you advice and support that truly HELPS you)… *note* everyone in your family or friend circle is not necessarily a PBOD.
Extend yourself some grace (its on your time...you are human and mistakes are allowed)
And remember its ok to grieve, feel sad, depressed and disappointed... healing is not a race; but don't stay down there too long... make intentional choices to feel better, at a pace that is good for you... slowly but surely find a way to get back to a place of happiness and at the very least a place of coping.
Be good to you, make good choices and allow grace!
Until Next time
Velekia Rose
